
POSSESSED
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'POSSESSED' enters the complicated worlds of four hoarders; people whose lives are dominated by their relationship to possessions. The film questions whether hoarding is a symptom of mental illness or a revolt against the material recklessness of consumerism. When does collecting become hoarding and why do possessions exert such an influence on our lives?
Made during a Visual Anthropology Masters at Goldsmiths College London last year. Winner of the Silver Egg at Emir Kusturica's Kustendorf Film Festival, 2008 and Winner at BLIFF 2008, (Banja Luka International Film Festival bliff.net ).
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This is a very common and growing problem. If you know anyone who is clearly a hoarder, please try to show them this film. I would be very interested to know how they respond. A feature of the disorder is that people often deny there is a problem. When they finally do realise they are in trouble they tend to think they have a unique problem which leads to a feeling of shame, isolation and despair. It's a very complex problem without a quick fix, but with care and understanding it is possible to get on top of it. I've seen it done.
For more info on Hoarding go to
ocfoundation.org
ocdaction.org.uk/ocdaction/index.asp?id=429
squalorsurvivors.com/index.shtml
childrenofhoarders.com/forum/index.php
mha-sf.org/programs/ichc.cfm
I am now researching the next stage of the project. I am trying to compile a collection of peoples experiences of OCD and other anxiety based disorders. I have found from experience that although symptoms might be similar, the actual particularities of the obsessions and compulsions are often very varied. For example, someone might wash ones hands 30 times a day, but have a very unique, self-discovered reason for doing so. I would be very grateful to hear of your or any friend/acquaintances experiences/difficulties.
Many thanks and I hope you find the film interesting.
Please mention where you found the link and feel free to email me at 'martin at martinhampton.com' (spam avoider)
Contact me direct if you wish to purchase a DVD of the film which also includes my films 'The Collector' vimeo.com/666346 and 'Last of the Conductors' vimeo.com/716703
Made during a Visual Anthropology Masters at Goldsmiths College London last year. Winner of the Silver Egg at Emir Kusturica's Kustendorf Film Festival, 2008 and Winner at BLIFF 2008, (Banja Luka International Film Festival bliff.net ).
It plays best on Full Screen with HD on and scaling off. If its still jerky, switch HD off.
This is a very common and growing problem. If you know anyone who is clearly a hoarder, please try to show them this film. I would be very interested to know how they respond. A feature of the disorder is that people often deny there is a problem. When they finally do realise they are in trouble they tend to think they have a unique problem which leads to a feeling of shame, isolation and despair. It's a very complex problem without a quick fix, but with care and understanding it is possible to get on top of it. I've seen it done.
For more info on Hoarding go to
ocfoundation.org
ocdaction.org.uk/ocdaction/index.asp?id=429
squalorsurvivors.com/index.shtml
childrenofhoarders.com/forum/index.php
mha-sf.org/programs/ichc.cfm
I am now researching the next stage of the project. I am trying to compile a collection of peoples experiences of OCD and other anxiety based disorders. I have found from experience that although symptoms might be similar, the actual particularities of the obsessions and compulsions are often very varied. For example, someone might wash ones hands 30 times a day, but have a very unique, self-discovered reason for doing so. I would be very grateful to hear of your or any friend/acquaintances experiences/difficulties.
Many thanks and I hope you find the film interesting.
Please mention where you found the link and feel free to email me at 'martin at martinhampton.com' (spam avoider)
Contact me direct if you wish to purchase a DVD of the film which also includes my films 'The Collector' vimeo.com/666346 and 'Last of the Conductors' vimeo.com/716703
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Great film.
There are some older films up there.
I am now using FCP 6 and it works very well.
Good Job.
Got the link from getrichslowly.org/blog
Hope to catch some more of these sorts of documentaries.
I am here if anyone needs to relate or ask question about this issue. I've lived like this for almost my entire lifetime and I am 32 now.This film really helps me in that I don't feel so "Outcasted" and some friends have watched it and suddenly have a new look on me. I do have other issues as well that are related...
Thank you so much for making the film (I wish I was there when u filmed as an aid)
And the director if you'd like more info please feel free to contact me.
This place I live in. It's a mess too. This video, the things it reminds me of. Can't get rid of it. Emotional attachment. How am I going to clear out my storage place? How am I going to clean and keep clean my rooms? And then, too clean? Yes, important subject. Well done my friend. Well done. Good for you. Well done!!
I do hope that some of the people in the documentary are seeking help. If not you, Mark, someone closed to them should try to help them seek emotional support. I'm sure it is partly the crafty film-making and clever editing, but their problems seem to lie deeper than that of hoarding.
Martin
Thank you. This was disturbing and fascinating. I was interested by how clearly each of these individuals could talk about what they were doing. How self-aware they were in their hoarding (whilst not being happy with it). Somehow this has reinforced to me that my being really quite self-aware about my clutter doesn't actually get rid of it either.
I have been gently and slowly clearing and cleaning things in my flat over the last couple of weeks (prompted by my boyfriend, now ex, moving out). I think I will use this documentary as a springboard to do more. I too have often had dreams over the years of a minimalist bedroom with a curtain blowing freely in the breeze.
I'm going to be thinking about this for a while. (I have felt very strange and malformed w.r.t. the clutter and dirt I live in. It *is* good to know I'm not alone, nor even as "bad" as other people.)
Thanks for that. I think that I've always had borderline packrat tendencies, and was distressed to realize that I had almost as many books as the first guy (should I be worried that I found him pretty normal?)
The other three, on the other hand, scared me. And I felt overwhelmingly sorry for them. I hope that they will be able to get help and become happier about who they are.
Great piece! I actually followed the link from BoingBoing as well. Also, great work with the type.
The worst thing for someone with this form of OCD is Amazon and overnight shipping. And the iTunes Music Store. And credit cards.
I didn't know that all of the things I struggle with personally had an underlying thread: OCD. Thanks again for posting this documentary. I am going to call a therapist today and start ridding my life of clutter. Your film helped me understand that I'm not alone, and that there's a way out. By the way, I found your film via boingboing.net. And, as a further aside, it does look amazing. I love the close-up of the man's eyes. That was very moving.
In our home, things kept a sort of equilibrium for quite a long time while we still had room to store things (we tended to collect small things) - but then my wife's mother died. One day not long thereafter (and without asking me if I had an opinion on the matter), my wife rented a moving truck and, with the help of two movers, relocated the entire contents of her mother's house (furniture and all) to our house. Furthermore, my mother-in-law was quite a collector herself. In fact, she had a phrase to refer to any one of the vast number of little collectibles that she would buy: "Hyacinths for the soul". Our home went from very cluttered to well-nigh uninhabitable in a very short period of time; we went from having significant floor space in our home (we actually used to have our band rehearsals there) to navigating ever-narrowing footpaths between ever-growing piles of stuff. At first I was gentle and solicitously concerned, but as time went on and our home became more of a disaster area I became more impatient and more vocal and vehement about dealing with the clutter. It took the joy from our lives and isolated us. We gradually ceased having visitors over (except for a small core of maybe three or four people who knew about the problem), and we completely ceased having strangers over. I managed to live in the whirlwind for two entire years after my mother-in-law's possessions entered it. Finally, I could tolerate it no longer and moved out.
I have been back a few times to gather up a few little things I had left behind but, looking at the house now, my wife's clutter has mushroomed to such an extreme extent that it's impossible to tell that an entire other person and his own collection of clutter once inhabited the space as well. She acknowledges that it's a serious problem but, because of her depression she is unable and/or unwilling to do anything about it. For a very long time, I offered to help her clear it out (or at least start to organize it), but she doesn't want my help - she has to do it all by herself and she's just not yet able to deal with it. I only hope that she can find some help before she accidentally burns the place down. I think that, given her choice, she'd prefer to keep everything but to keep it in some orderly way with vast rooms full of shelving and boxes or something.
If nothing else, having to watch this terrible thing overtake our lives managed to cure my own cluttered tendencies before they got similarly out of control. When I moved out I trashed, sold, or gave away the vast majority of my own collections and I now understand how liberating it can feel to no longer be so "buried in treasures". This last phrase was the name of a useful book on hoarding which I read and then gave to my wife. She read it, admitted that the problems it describes fit her perfectly........ and then went right back to sleep on the couch amidst the mountains of irrelevant wealth which imprison her.
May she soon find peace and contentment.
Also, I found Robert Moore's post a few above mine very touching and sad. I hope your wife finds peace too.
This film wouldn't phase her.
Is this a brain dissorder???
Or is it just living in fear of letting go?
Excellent work.
I see this problem in a friend of mine also. She is broke but she has made over $150,000 a year that she has spent on stuff that she tries to store. She has moved a few times and family came in and rented dumpsters to clean out her house each time. Its like she knows, and leaves, so that somebody can fix the situation, but she recreates the problem all over again. Any attempt to make her conscious of it just makes her defensive.
Your documentary captured the hopelessness of our situation, but not the hell of it. It really is a living hell - to know you have such potential, to have everything you need to make your dreams come true at your fingertips and just not be able to grasp it, or master it. Trying to find a place big enough to lie down and sleep. Ruining things I love and paid good money for. Running as fast as I can and still falling farther behind. It's an important subject. Thanks for addressing it. If I can be of any help, feel free to contact me.
But it runs in our family too -- great-grandmother was a depression survivor, grandma has freezers stocked full of rotting food, aunts on both sides root through piles to find things, just like my sister. When I was a teenager I liked the clutter too -- clothes covering the bed, magazine pages and posters on every inch of the walls, nail polish all over the dresser -- and in college I was the same way. Now I can't get rid of enough stuff, and I married someone who's a bit of a hoarder himself. The only things I feel OK about are the books (4 neatly organized [if crammed] shelves), the DVDs (cases tossed and the discs in CD binders; TV boxsets on shelves), and the music (also on shelves). In some ways I'm grateful for my family being crazy, because it inspires me to keep getting rid of more and more things of the stuff I keep for sentimental value, for fitting into when I lose weight, because it's cute, because I might need it "some day" etc & etc. I just wish I could give that feeling back to them.
i found the documentary via apartmenttherapy.com because i wondered if the apartment therapy web site was just fun stuff (fluff) for people who are already minimalists or if it had what i would think of as 'substance.' so i did a search for hoarding on the site and came up with your doc.
i'm working on some of these hoarding problems, myself, and could relate to the documentary very much. it is hard to pinpoint a catalyst that makes a person able to change. i briefly dated someone who was appalled by my apartment (mostly boxes, floor-to-ceiling), and who questioned me about it, asking if it was 'compulsion.' i had never thought of it that way, so i ordered some workbooks about compulsive hoarding from oxford university press. this was recently and i am 34; i've been a hoarder (ascribing meaning to objects that have no value to others such as: things found on the street, papers, doodles, grocery lists, ticket stubs, you name it) my whole life, it seems. i have a stable family of origin (though i have to say they are frugal...) and have been in two long-term relationships in which i lived with each person and made that person mental with all my "stuff." one of those significant others has since passed away, and i learned what real loss is, with his passing.
at this point, for me, what helps is: taking this problem seriously, giving myself -time- to find ways that are acceptable to ME of parting with belongings, me aging (and how aging changes one's perspective about what is -really- important), taking breaks when i'm working on purging my belongings because it is a very emotional and draining thing to try to do, and so on. it takes time. i've stopped being away from my home the majority of the time and have finally started tackling the problem. it's not exactly fun but i am starting to feel as if i have an iota of control over my stuff and i am starting to feel more self-respecting. like one of the gentlemen in the film, i also have several 'spaces,' including a storage space. so genuinely working on my apartment is just the beginning, for me.
i agree that grief and depression and anxiety can have a big part in this. they each tend to be debilitating, at times. but i want to say that i do think little by little we can chip away at the issue, or with serious on-site help (with a trained therapist who comes to a person's house, which i've never tried), bigger strides can be made.
i used to think that i was only an artist because i 'had' all of these neat multiples of things (like the woman in your film) but an artist can have everything stripped of him or her, and still be an artist. i really used to think that my things were what made me different and special, in a good way. but now that i have some perspective on it, i see that the ways in which a person is different and special have nothing to do with their 'Objets.' to anyone who reads this who wants to pare down, just keep trying again and again, try to find out a bit more about your own psychology, and know that there are resources out there for you. certain antidepressants are thought to help with the compulsion, but i have not tried any.
it's amazing how this subject is coming to the fore. i know that this problem has caused me to push other people away and has inflicted people around me (including me) with quite a bit of stress. i think we can change our habits without extinguishing this light that humans have, inside, but we need new behavior, first. i've stopped crying when something gets broken or i have to throw something out, or i lose something. i've changed the way i look at it but the new perspective was actually -because- i lost bigger things in my life that weren't objects; they were people. it's hard, but it can be done, and it can liberate us. i'm just beginning so really i don't know anything but i'm trying, IN EARNEST, for the first time in my life, after saying i would, for many many years.
martin, thank you for your film.
That said, it would be very interesting to see a film about people who are obsessively tidy, too. (Someone once lectured me 'a tidy desk is a tidy mind' - but it could be a rigid and uncreative one too.)
"Anti-hoarding" as you describe it means wasting your time and money buying things and using the idea of giving them as gifts to excuse the behavior. This might make you a spendthrift, but in no way makes you a hoarder.
Others charitably called my life-style "sparse."
The trouble is, I am overwhelmed by paper as a teacher. There is stuff I have to have on a daily basis, reams of information to process each year for committees, the administrative missives, credential documents, special education student records, updated and original lesson materials, continuing education records, materials received from workshops and conferences, household records, investments, reference materials. It all seems important. Some stays at school. Some gets toted back and forth and some sits in my home.
I spent literally my entire summer break purging my resource notebooks and got down to about 30 large binders which are stuffed to the gills. I recycled several carloads of paper.
After 20 years of teaching you would think I should know what I use and what I don't use. The trouble is partly that I don't know if I will need the material some year when they tell me I am switching grade levels or if the state curriculum changes and I go from needing materials on physics to a unit on oceans. This happens on a fairly regular basis.
It's not like I am saving empty toilet paper rolls. Oh yes, I AM saving them! I have a cabinet at school loaded with coffee cans, egg cartons and cardboard rolls. I often access that for labs and storage (mineral collections in egg cartons for each lab group, for instance). Yes, I also spend a lot of my own money on supplies and equipment.
I used to have a small barn at home with tote bins of my stuff. My current classroom has most of the seashell/mineral/activity book stuff. This year one person in my department had to travel and had no permanant classroom. I threatened to quit if they did that to me!
Times are always tough in public schools. I keep papers from the recycling bin to print on the blank sides. Still, I end up throwing away dumpster loads of stuff. The digital camera has allowed me to take pictures of good science projects and send the display boards to the garbage.
I have a scanner for digitalizing my collection of 4000 slides to be used in my classroom. Can I throw away the slides or can I trust the technology? Arizona heat is making that decision for me. The slides are degrading.
Now take this problem and double it. My husband is also a teacher of the same subject. He is working on a masters degree and had another career from which he saved materials. He has an even larger collection of resource books and several file cabinets in the garage. His struggle with depression keeps him from purging either.
I don't think there is a particular place on the internet to discuss teacher-clutter. The closest thing I can compare it to is the scrapbookers who save anything they can use to decorate their creative pages and end up with entire rooms full of (beautifully organized) materials that cost a fortune.
cheers,
Ricardo
Last week I used the term "Hoarder" to describe myself for the first time in almost 40 years. I know I have a problem now. A real problem. It's always been there, but I guess I haven't. The day I blocked the front door I realized this was just too much. I had an impromptu garage sale---sold very little. My thrift shop to which I donate just happens to be closed for repainting and re-stocking this week. I am finally ready to part with stuff, and I hit this wall. Will I still be able to do it next week?
What to do? I know all the psaychology behind it; I've read all the self help books; I know the techniques, what to say to myself when I have to make a decision on what to do with something in my hand RIGHT NOW. Yet I still have to clear paths for my kids to play, tables for the family to eat on, doorways and staircases to avoid the firetrap and trip hazard zone we are living in.
I tell my kids, "What is the worst thing that could happen if you give that toy away?" On the occasions that I am patient and understanding, they eventually understand and part with it. Then I keep it in a box in the garage, thinking one day they will love it again, after a long absence. Or perhaps it's because I am not ready to part with it, even though they made the leap. I am the baby in turn.
Perhaps I need to write this all out more often. I remember that my therapist has told me to journal as a release. If only I knew someone would read it. If you are reading this, thank you. If you'd like to start a dialogue or know of where I can join one, please email me at 14shopping@comcast.net.
I won't leave with "Happy Hoarding!" That would be truly morbid. May you discard in peace.
Ciao
C-
PS-- I must now copy this and save it. Just in case.
The toys and computers appeal to me in ways I can't describe. It's like throwing them out will somehow upset them. Deep down I know they're not people and they can't feel like that, but it's nigh on impossible to throw one away/give it to someone.
The magazines are things like music magazines, mensa magazines, history magazines, and then some catalogues of music and clothes, furniture... I keep them because I have just this feeling which goes against any logic, that someday I will need to read them again or refer to them somehow.
The space I'm sitting in has paper covering the floor and stacks of magazines. If I put my feet down, I stand on clutter. The only clear places I have are my bed and the path to my door.
So I can empathise with the people in the film greatly, even if my hoarding hasn't quite got so bad yet.
Especially @12:39 thats just obsessive